Our guest post today comes from Annie Roe. Annie enjoys watching Disney movies, reading books, and writing. She also plays piano and is a Girl Scout. When she’s not doing that, she’s most likely attending school or sleeping. If the day is going her way, probably sleeping. She also loves spending time with friends, family, eating chocolate and watching Downton Abbey. Sometimes consecutively.
Everyone has a mother. If you are lucky, you can call your mom, text your mom, or write an e-mail to your mom anytime you want. You might live with your mom and see her every day.
I wish everyone in the world could see their mom all the time. But sadly, this isn’t the case. Even if you can’t see your mom, there are probably other people in your life. You may have a grandmother, aunt, teacher, stepmom, friend’s mom, or family friend. For the sake of time, I’ll just call them all “mom”. (And let’s face it. They’ve all been your mom at some point anyways.)
Sometimes it can be really hard to get along with adults, especially your mom. She wants you to be safe, you want a Snapchat or to go to a concert a state away. You two are bound to argue at some point, and that’s okay. Your relationship will grow stronger as you work out the kinks.
Even if you think you have a really strong relationship, there will always be a generational gap between you too. I have grown up during the digital age with computers and smartphones. When my mom was born, The Muppet Show was airing. One of the big problems I think my mom and I face is connecting with each other. Our childhoods were so different, it’s hard to compare them to one another. So I have compiled a list of things YOU can do to strengthen the connection you have with your mom.
- DO SOMETHING TOGETHER. Take a fun class, like cooking or sewing. My mom and I go to a family history class together, and it’s really fun. It puts us on an even playing field and we can spend time together while learning new things.
- DO SOMETHING NICE FOR YOUR MOM. I always feel more connected to someone after I’ve done something nice for them, especially if I continue to see it day after day. (Like flowers or a note on a mirror.) It makes me happy to know my mom is happy.
- TALK TO HER. Tell her about your life, and ask about hers. It doesn’t need to be about her childhood or your future. Talk about the present. She will probably be going through different things than you, but you can support each other through whatever it is.
- FORGIVE HER. Moms make mistakes too. Although it is easy to be mad or point out her flaws, that only shoves you two further apart.
In writing this, I kind of realized that there are some gaps in my mom’s and I’s relationship, but I am determined to fix them. I think that in the future it will be worth it.