One day while building our current home, I drove up to the construction site and saw a young man working high on my roof. I entered the house, looked up, and saw both the young man and the SKY, which I could now see through six roof holes! I called up to him urgently asking if he had cut the holes and if so, why? The conversation continued something like this:
Guy: “Yes, I cut the holes for the vents you see in that box down there. They delivered the vent box this morning.”
Me: “I’m pretty sure we don’t have vents in our roof. I think the holes you cut are wrong.”
Guy: “Well 98% of houses have vents on their roof.”
Me: “Well, I’m pretty sure mine doesn’t. We designed it, and I don’t recall any vents. Did you look at the plans?”
Guy: “No, I didn’t look at the plans. Almost every house has vents.”
Me: (Again) “Well, I’m pretty sure mine doesn’t. (Looking at plans.) The plans don’t show vents. But I’ll call the county to double check the master set of plans.”
I then called the county planning office knowing full well we had no vents on our roof. I called because during the construction process I often found it difficult to get men, even young men, to listen to me until I proved I knew what I was talking about.
Me: (On the phone to the county people who had become my friends…) “ Hi, it’s Tiffany again. Could you please double check our master plans? We don’t have six holes in our roof for vents do we?…(waiting)…Great, thanks. That’s what I thought. (To the guy on the roof) So, like I said, we don’t have vents.”
Guy: “Weird. 98% of houses have them.”
Me: “I understand, but mine doesn’t. So now I have six large holes in my roof that will likely leak years down the road because you didn’t look at the plans. How do you propose to fix this error?”
And on it went… Thankfully, the guy and his company did fix the errors by patching the holes. But I still worry about having leaks in the future. The damage to our roof, albeit unintentional, was still damage the roofing guy could have avoided if he had just looked at the plans.
Our Heavenly Parents have master plans for each of us. They designed and created us in their image. They know just how amazing, beautiful, and unique each of us can be.
But we need to look at their plans for our lives without blindly “building” ourselves here on earth. If we look at their plans, we can avoid painful mistakes that cost us time and sometimes, sadness.
Like the many types of homes there are on this earth, our lives have many parts. We all experience infancy, childhood, and our teenage years as individuals but with some type of family around us. Later in life, each of us experience an infinite combination of life events, both joyful and challenging, such as work, college, graduate school, abuse, health problems, marriage, children, divorce, and friendships.
If each of us is like my home, are we checking our God-designed blueprints to see if we are building ourselves as our Heavenly Parents want us to become? Are we expanding our circle of friends when we should really be befriending a particular individual? Both good options, but which one is in our life plan for right now? Are we dating someone who does not value the plan God designed for us and who wants us to be someone else instead of who we are meant to become? Are we too scared to try something new God directs us to do because no one else’s life plan we know has done that? Have we suffered from a drug or pornography setback, like fire damaging part of our home, and we have to rebuild, calling on old foundational plans and feeling childlike in our steps to start again?
We have eternity to build ourselves into the women our Heavenly Parents intend us to be. We need to keep checking their plans for us to know, really know, the women we are meant to be to experience maximum joy.