Our guest post today comes from Chelsea Gregson. Chelsea loves to read, play music and write. She likes to go thrift shopping and work on DIY projects. She loves going on road trips and trying new things. Chelsea served a mission in England and then graduated from the University of Utah. Her and her husband own a fixer-upper house in Utah.
I’m not pretty. I’m not fun. I’m not smart, funny, talented. I’m not good at anything. She’s better than me. She’s so beautiful. Why can’t I look like her? She’s so good at everything she does. I wish I was her. I wish I was anyone but myself. I don’t like who I am.
Have you ever felt this way about yourself? Time and time again, I have successfully convinced myself that I’m not good enough. I am a victim of myself. I am a bully to myself. I’ve always experienced all of those feelings. Finally, I’ve decided I need to actively do something about it. No, I don’t mean I’m going to work out harder to make myself look better in other people’s eyes. I’m not going to spend a lot of money to upgrade my wardrobe. I’m not going to post pictures on social media that make me appear better or different than I am. What I am going to do is practice self-love.
It is so easy to fall victim to yourself. It happens to me almost on a daily basis. As I’ve read a little more about the importance of self-love, I’ve finally taken action. It takes a lot of practice but in the end, you’ll feel so much better about yourself! This month, I dedicated one of my journals to happiness and self-love. I read articles online, listen to podcasts, read conference talks, and express my thoughts on finding my own happiness. So far, I’ve learned that your happiness depends on no one but you. If you want to be happier, YOU have to do something about it. But it’s nothing to do with outward appearances. It’s all focused inward.
“There is nothing that you have to get, do or be in order to be happy.”
Don’t worry about being popular. Don’t worry about how many likes you get on social media. Don’t worry about the way you look. These are things you can’t control. You have to learn to be proud of who you are. You have to learn to love yourself.
Practicing self-love holds more importance than it is given credit for. How can you possibly get the most out of your life when you are not loving the person you are? You will never find happiness if you are constantly wishing to be someone else. Stop complaining about your weight. Stop complaining about your hair. Focus on the good. Find things you DO like about yourself.
I set a few goals to help me practice self-love. So far, it is helping so much and I’m learning to love the person that I am. I am perfectly imperfect and I’m ok with that. Here they are:
- Stop comparing. Avoid celebrity news, un-follow people on social media who make me feel bad about myself.
- Look in the mirror. Say 3-5 things that I love about myself everyday (and not just physical things!)
- Exercise and eat healthy. Not to look better for other people, but to feel better about myself. FOR MYSELF.
- Be grateful. Write down 3 things that I’m grateful for everyday.
- Limit time on social media. It doesn’t make me happy anyways.
Today I read a talk by President Monson called “Finding Joy in the Journey.” It is one of my favorite talks, so I go back to it regularly. A quote stuck out to me as I read the talk. It reads:
“Whatever hour God has blessed you with, take it with grateful hand. So that in whatever place you have been, you may say that you have lived happily.”
How sad it would be if every time we looked back on our lives, we saw ourselves sad and heartbroken. We have to enjoy the journey! But the journey is going to be awfully hard to enjoy if we don’t show love to ourselves. You don’t want to go through your whole life wishing you were someone else. Look in the mirror, be proud of who you are and recognize the fact that Heavenly Father made you. And He doesn’t make mistakes. You, my friend, are no mistake.
What are you going to do to show more love for yourself?