Many fun and exciting things happen during the summer months and naturally we want to post about them online! While social media is an amazing tool to keep in touch with friends and family, I often think of the challenges it can bring youth today.
Before, I wouldn’t know until Monday morning at school that “everyone” got together Friday night without me. But today, I get instant updates of pictures and snapchats from every get-together I’ve missed. I mean, at least before I had the whole weekend of not knowing I was left out!
As you can imagine, this isn’t something that will only last during your teenage years. It happens to everyone! We all know what it feels like to see others doing fun things without us and it can hurt.
We can’t change when and what people post on the Internet, however, we can control what we post. I think there are some important questions to ask ourselves when posting online:
- What is my intent with this post?
- How does what I am posting say about me and my beliefs?
- How will this post make others feel?
By knowing WHY we are posting online we will hopefully be more cautious about WHAT we post.
With that said, there will be times when others feel left out whether they see something online or not. This is an age-old issue. I asked some of the Young Women in my ward how they handle feeling left out.
Crysthel said, “I spend time with those who mean a lot to me. Personally, it is my family and a few close friends.” When asked how she decides what to post on social media Crysthel said, “I make sure what I post is appropriate; something I would feel comfortable having our Savior, Jesus Christ see. I also know what it’s like to not be included so I try to post pictures that wouldn’t make others feel left out.”
Mariliana said that she used to feel really left out when her friends would post pictures of something she wasn’t invited to. She said, “I used to ask myself if I did something to offend them or wonder if they were mad at me,” she adds, “Then I realized we all have different schedules and priorities. I know I can’t go to everything even if I was invited so I try to be happy for whoever is posting something fun they did.”
Mariliana is right! Being happy for people is a better and less stressful way to live.
And finally, here’s some brilliant advice my Stake President said when planning social gatherings: “Think of who to include, not who to exclude.”
Happy posting, friends!