We have a lot of talks about modesty to keep us from getting raped, but it still happens to women covered from head to toe in the Middle East. If that’s the point of modesty, why bother?
Clothes Don’t Rape The Girl, Men Do
I’m sorry if my words come across as harsh, and I do intend to be blunt, so I understand if you perceive them as such. Sexual assault and modesty have nothing to do with one another, nor is the purpose of modesty to shirk sexual assault. I’ll say it again: sexual assault and modesty have nothing to do with each other. If you have been taught otherwise, you have been taught incorrectly. People make their own choices in this world, darling, and just as you have the opportunity to dress modestly if you want to, someone else has the choice to commit sexual assault. There has been a lot of recent talk about what “causes” rape, or how we can “prevent” it from happening. Do you want to know what causes rape? Someone choosing to rape someone else. So, let’s just put that to rest, shall we? There simply isn’t a connection. Furthermore, if you are a victim of sexual assault, or know someone who is, please read and re-read this: it isn’t your fault.
Meanwhile, if you’re finding it difficult to see the meaning and purpose in dressing modestly, I would perhaps invite you to ponder why God asked the Saints to build a temple in Nauvoo knowing full-well it would be destroyed. Or why He led the Israelites out of bondage in Egypt only to let them wander in the wilderness for 40 years. Or why He asks us to avoid drinking coffee, or go to church for 3 hours every Sunday, or to pay 10% of our income as tithing, or to have faith in something we literally have never seen. His wisdom and perspective is infinite and ours is finite. There is meaning and purpose in all things He asks us to do, even if that meaning in purpose is simply to see if we’ll do the things he has asked.
Everything you have, God has given to you. Literally. The air you breathe, the family you love, the money you spend. The only thing that is yours to give to him is your agency in choosing to follow and abide by the commandments he has given to you, regardless of whether you find them strange or purposeless, or ineffective. To be blunt, it doesn’t really matter whether you regard them as such, because Christ died for you. He literally hung on a cross, suffered for your sins, and died so that you could live again. So I think that if He asks us to do something, we should probably just do it.
You can choose to dress modestly even though you don’t necessarily understand the purpose. Modesty is more than just the things you wear, Clothes. It’s a state of mind, the way you treat others, the way you approach and perceive any given situation. God hasn’t asked women to dress modestly to prevent them from being sexually assaulted. He has asked them to dress modestly simple because he’s asked them to dress modestly.