I remember it like it was yesterday. I was wearing a new white tee-shirt and jeans. I didn’t want to be too over the top for the first day of my junior year of high school. My dad was driving me to school and without even realizing it I said, “Dad, this is good. You can drop me off back here.” For the first time in my life I was embarrassed to be seen driving with my dad. I can’t imagine what he was thinking. He didn’t brush off my request and did not drop me off “back here”. He drove me straight to the front door of the school. As I got out I remember him saying really loud, “Have a great day, Ashley!!” No shame.
Why did I care so much? It is a question I still ask myself. The fact that this experience is still brought up by my dad proves that it had an impact on him as well.
Fast forward to my senior year of college. I am 22-years-old and began dating a really amazing guy. I couldn’t wait to introduce him to my parents. I needed their advice, guidance and impressions.
So, what happened between my 16-year-old self and my 22-year-old self? I’m sure a similar experience has happened to others. Yes, parents may have their quirks. They may be overprotective or sensitive when it comes to their kids. Guess what I’ve learned–It is because they love you. Ultimately their relationship with their kids is what will matter the most.
As a mother to two young kids who are my little shadows I can’t picture how they will get to the point of being by me every second to not wanting me around. It is just part of growing up, right? Does it need to be though? What if we were proud of our parents? What if we couldn’t wait to introduce them to our friends?
As summer is wrapping up I’d love to encourage you lovely young women to spend a little more time then you maybe normally would to hang out with your parents. Believe it or not you are growing up really quickly and this time won’t come back. Cherish them as they cherish you. Parents need to see and hear how much you love them—don’t assume they just know.
What are some things you love to do with your parents?